There is an old saying, "Frugality in a woman is the most undesirable!" I just broke up with a woman (Susan) I have been dating for about 5+ months. Susan had everything going for her - she was attractive, educated, well-rounded, career-oriented, great-paying job, healthy and in good-shape, well-traveled, loves to garden, etc. The ONE big reason I broke up with her - she was Cheap! Cheap! Cheap! Unbelievably Cheap! Mind you, Susan was not poor. She had a six-figure salary, drives a nice BMW and owns a townhouse in Rittenhouse Square. In the beginning when we were first dating, there were subtle clues that I did not pick up but her miserly, penny-pinching, nickle-and-diming, persona escalated as we got closer in our relationship. When I took Susan out to dinner (my treat) - I select a nice, intimate, or classy restaurant around the city. When Susan takes me out to dinner (her treat) - she would want to go to the diner (esp. the early bird special) or any of the cheap eats on South Street. When I would go over her place for dinner, I would bring a purchased bottle of wine or flowers - the normal etiquette. When she comes over my house, she brings a cucumber or a small bag of cherry tomatoes from her garden - and they were not for eating for that night. At first I thought how cute it was to be proud of bringing organic veges grown by her own hands - but later realized, not any of her gift items she would give me were ever purchased - not one! There were other incidences. Both our birthdays are in October, Susan gave me an old/used vase she had stored away for years collecting dust (I got her a $100 gift certificate to her favorite store). A month ago, she acquired a man's leather jacket in good condition that would fit me but instead of offering this item to me, she asks if I would like to 'purchase' it from her for a small fee otherwise she would donate it for a tax deduction. <Seriously?!> For Christmas, I got her a monogram World Atlas since she loves to travel. She got me 1 paperback book which I later found at Barnes and Noble discount table costing $5. Sadly, my New Year Resolution was to break up with this woman! When I did, we argued! I accused her of being this cheap tightwad! She heavily denies it and say she is Frugal! Frugal, really??? I proceeded to point out her closet full of designer outfits, her drawer of jewelry galore, her countless (guessing 100+) shoes, her desire to travel abroad every Spring, her quality, top-of-the-line appliances and furniture in her home, etc. If one is truly Frugal, one would not have this continual need to build material wealth and possessions. She would spend big $$$ on herself but never on others and that is the clear definition of Cheap! I did say to her - "Frugality in a woman is the most undesirable!" And that if she does not change her ways, she will grow old alone. Am I wrong???