Should Parents be expected to Respect their children?

**chris123678** · 08-08-2012, 01:25 PM

I'm 23 and today I was eating out with some friends. Next to us was a family, and the child, about 11, was telling his Mom and Grandmom how he loves subways and his grandmother intereppted him without saying excuse me and started a different converstation. The little boy said "Grandmom i was speaking" and his mother chimned in and said" It' doesn't matter, she's an adult, your a child" I felt so bad for that boy.
So do you think parents should respect children?

**enyo** · 08-08-2012, 01:32 PM

If they want respected back. Respect is a two-way street.

**2happy4u** · 08-08-2012, 07:35 PM

Kids should be seen not heard.

**chris123678** · 08-08-2012, 08:06 PM

What? So this justifies the reason why a little 11 year old boy can't tell his parents that he has a love for subways?
Parents should control their children, but to a certain degree. Children's opinions matter 100%

**enyo** · 08-08-2012, 09:45 PM

Originally Posted by 2happy4u

Kids should be seen not heard.

That sounds like lazy parenting in my opinion. Reminds me of the the women I see
telling their kids to shut the "f" up. It's probably a great opportunity to quell curiosity and promote
intellectual laziness. Also a missed opportunity to learn or teach.

**chris123678** · 08-08-2012, 10:29 PM

Children should be seen And Heard. It's only parents who want to act like military leaders who won't allow their children to say anything. This is not in the 1950s and I'm glad that that type of traditonal crap is over.
It's not right to have children sitting at the dinner table being able to say nothing.

**OldMama** · 08-09-2012, 04:48 PM

Children model their parents' behavior. Personally, I wanted my kids to grow up into polite adults because it's the right thing to do, not because I scared them into it. So far, they reflect well on me.

**chris123678** · 08-09-2012, 04:58 PM

Originally Posted by OldMama

Children model their parents' behavior. Personally, I wanted my kids to grow up into polite adults because it's the right thing to do, not because I scared them into it. So far, they reflect well on me.

So telling a kid to shutup because he's a child just because he's a child?
Mind you, the boy was telling his family how he enjoys train.

Children should been seen not heard is a stupid outdated rule.

**FKD19124** · 08-09-2012, 04:59 PM

not to digress...but I laugh when I hear "this is not the 1950s". Was the 1950s really that bad?
Were people chained and forced to be happy all the time? To tell you the truth, I in my early 40s, and I think
or it seems to me, things were better and alot simpler back then.

Originally Posted by chris123678

Children should be seen And Heard. It's only parents who want to act like military leaders who won't allow their children to say anything. This is not in the 1950s and I'm glad that that type of traditonal crap is over.
It's not right to have children sitting at the dinner table being able to say nothing.

**chris123678** · 08-09-2012, 05:38 PM

No, the 1950s weren't bad, yet, after seeing what i saw yesterday, parents have little respect for their children. Mearly, telling a child to bequiet for trying to talk to his parents is not acceptable.
Children should be able to talk about their likes and opinions, not shut them up like there not important.

**2happy4u** · 08-09-2012, 05:48 PM

When you become a friend and not a parent is when the trouble starts. Most kids are little spoiled brats who don't know when to keep their mouths shut. The best is when I see a guy impressing himself intellectually by having this huge conversation with a 2 yr. old who wants a water ice. I also love the many who allow their monsters to run ram-pet in others homes destroying things and they pretend they don't see it or are to lazy to stop it. I am always dumbfounded when I see toddlers running the show dictating when & where the parents will go. IMO people perceive kids as being equal to adults.

**chris123678** · 08-09-2012, 05:59 PM

No, I didn't not say a parent should become friends with their children. My point is this: Children have opinions, and a child's opinion should be acknowledged, it might not always be right, but shutting a kid up is never the way to go unless they become disrespectful.
In this case- The Child's grandmother interepted what he was saying as if he was invisible and started a entirely new converstation, not even giving the child a chance to finsh or saying excuse me.

Children should be respected as well.

**Sycamore** · 08-09-2012, 07:17 PM

Originally Posted by FKD19124

not to digress...but I laugh when I hear "this is not the 1950s". Was the 1950s really that bad?
Were people chained and forced to be happy all the time? To tell you the truth, I in my early 40s, and I think
or it seems to me, things were better and alot simpler back then.

Hahahaha. You're a white male, right? Of course you feel that way.

**Sycamore** · 08-09-2012, 07:18 PM

Originally Posted by 2happy4u

when you become a friend and not a parent is when the trouble starts. Most kids are little spoiled brats who don't know when to keep their mouths shut. The best is when i see a guy impressing himself intellectually by having this huge conversation with a 2 yr. Old who wants a water ice. I also love the many who allow their monsters to run ram-pet in others homes destroying things and they pretend they don't see it or are to lazy to stop it. I am always dumbfounded when i see toddlers running the show dictating when & where the parents will go. Imo people perceive kids as being equal to adults.

Ram-Pet?

rampant

**chris123678** · 08-09-2012, 07:25 PM

We all know that parents and children aren't equal, but they should be respected equally.
For an adult to not respect what a child is saying is unacceptable. Not all adults are knowledgebable, many children are smart and prove adults wrong several times. Yes, parents should correct children when they misbehave, but children should be seen and HEARD. To disagree is just being ignorant.

**radiocolin** · 08-09-2012, 09:54 PM

Originally Posted by FKD19124

not to digress...but I laugh when I hear "this is not the 1950s". Was the 1950s really that bad?
Were people chained and forced to be happy all the time? To tell you the truth, I in my early 40s, and I think
or it seems to me, things were better and alot simpler back then.

Yeah, everything was much simpler with the separate water fountains, back of the bus rules, civil rights fights, race riots, overbearing morals and religious overtones...

**radiocolin** · 08-09-2012, 09:54 PM

Originally Posted by 2happy4u

I also love the many who allow their monsters to run ram-pet in others homes destroying things and they pretend they don't see it or are to lazy to stop it.

The word is rampant, mister one extreme or the other.

I think there is a certain limit. You don't want to crush curiosity and bright-eyed ness. And you certainly don't want to teach your kids that interrupting is OK. A child's curiosity should be indulged and nurtured.

But sometimes you just want them to shut up for 5 minutes. He may have already told them 20 times that day why he likes the subway.

But your description just makes the mom and grandmother sound like rude jerks.

**FKD19124** · 08-10-2012, 07:56 AM

I agree with that...but it seems today overall kids in general have no respect for their parents or older people period. I watched a 16 year old girl call her mom a bitch in a clothing store one time.
The mother just stood there.

Originally Posted by chris123678

No, the 1950s weren't bad, yet, after seeing what i saw yesterday, parents have little respect for their children. Mearly, telling a child to bequiet for trying to talk to his parents is not acceptable.
Children should be able to talk about their likes and opinions, not shut them up like there not important.

**FKD19124** · 08-10-2012, 07:56 AM

Originally Posted by radiocolin

Yeah, everything was much simpler with the separate water fountains, back of the bus rules, civil rights fights, race riots, overbearing morals and religious overtones...

oh you lived down south????

**FKD19124** · 08-10-2012, 07:58 AM

Originally Posted by Sycamore

Hahahaha. You're a white male, right? Of course you feel that way.

you must be a baby boomer.
oh so let me get this straight.....everyone else then was chained up and forced into labour camps with a smile imprinted on their faces???
had to be a better time than right now...crap...I'd go back to the 80s at least if I could.